Confidence and what holds us back
We all have confidence! Not feeling it these days? Before you decide, let us explore together what confidence means in our life, and then you can reflect on yourself and how confidence is or is not being experienced -felt inside you. Confidence is experienced in our life when we have a clear sense of identity and clear direction in life. You know who you are, you know what you want in your life, and you know WHY you want it! You can FEEL it in your gut! There is passion in this naʻau- heart knowing! Confidence happens when we make time to be honest with our self to reflect on our own abilities, talents, strengths, dreams and capabilities - that we want to share, offer and express outwardly in our life. Honesty builds trust, and trust builds our confidence. We all need to be aware that when we feel connected in life, not separate, trust and confidence grows in us. I remember a time in my life when I was dealing with the cancer that was growing inside me. It required me to make life or death decisions. I was terrified of dying at the time, so I chose to take my focus to living instead. I had to learn to listen and follow the guidance I was receiving from my inner family, my inner voice. I chose to listen to my body signals from ʻunihipili, the subconscious mind aspect of self in me that helped to grow my understanding of the beliefs about myself that made me feel bad. I needed to stop “intellectualizing” my feelings and embrace those feelings inside me no matter how negative I perceived them to be. Only then, was I able to forgive myself which allowed the trust and confidence to grow in me. Once we move past self-denial and accept responsibility for our thoughts and feelings, we can choose to let go and release them. My newly written book, The Hoʻoponopono Way of Life teaches us how to take charge of our thoughts and feelings rather than be slave to them. We all experience negative thoughts and feelings in our life that can override our confidence to move forward in life. We can choose as creator of our life what we want to do with those experiences - nurture, release or transform them. It is our universal right to be master of thought and emotion rather than a slave to thought and emotion.
What holds us back from growing our confidence in life is the lack of awareness in how the conscious ego mind, the ʻuhane aspect of self that is often a slave to its own thoughts and feelings, is controlled by what is happening in the outside world. This aspect of self thinks it is the only aspect of self in each of us. It is not! It is also the aspect of self in us that can grow its conscious awareness and confidence or destroy it in us. Very often, ʻuhane deceives us into thinking that its own confidence is dependent on what is happening in the outside world. That is an illusion. Everything we see, feel, touch or hear, was first created inside us. We choose our life experiences, thoughts and feelings in life and that knowing puts us in charge of our confidence in life. Doing personal freedom life coaching for many years with diverse individuals, families, and groups, I have learned that the confidence we seek in life is inside us. To access it requires an open mind and heart to going within oneself. The Hoʻoponopono Way of Life is a bridge to the spiritual realm that exist inside us. This is where our true wisdom and wealth resides. Remember the confidence you seek in life is inside you!
Go to my website @donnavida.net and purchase the book. It will expand your understanding of who you are, the inner family/selves, and help you to reclaim your true identity and take charge of your life, which requires activating your self-confidence. You can do it! I honor the light in you!